Healthy Leadership

Leader/Coach B.I.O. Discussion Guide

THIS TEMPLATE IS A GUIDE TO HELPING KEEP YOUR HEART CENTERED ON THE WILL OF GOD.

Use these questions as appropriate for you discussion with each other to challenge, exhort and encourage. Our goal for our relationships is that we help one another become mature in Christ. See Colossians 1:28

BEFORE GOD

Life involves consistently coming “before God” on a regular basis through corporate worship with a body of other Christ-followers, as well as through daily prayer and Bible reading for personal spiritual growth as individuals.

IN COMMUNITY

Experiencing authentic Biblical community with other Christians in casual, small group settings. A big church like Venture gets smaller and more relational when you connect with others who share your season of life or specific ministry interests.

ON MISSION

Serving the family of God within the church, as well as serving others locally and globally. There’s nothing more satisfying than to engage in ministry on a personal level and go beyond ourselves in the name of Jesus, expressing His love in action.

Before God

Romans 12:1-8
    Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of you.
  • How often do you think about God’s mercy? Why is this so important?
  • What is God asking you to surrender at His altar?
  • What have you surrendered that keeps crawling off the altar?
  • How does surrendering to God impact you personally?
  • What does God want to transform in you? What truth are you renewing your mind with?
  • What character is God building in you through surrender and His Word?
     For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.
  • What does it mean to be “in Christ”?
  • What does it look like for you to belong to others?
  • How has God gifted you? Can you praise Him for the gifts He has put in you or do you struggle
  • feeling in adequate? What does this tension look like in your life?
  • What gets in the way of discovering the real you?
  • What is my purpose in life?
  • Read pages 135-137 in True Spirituality

In Community

Romans 12:9-13
     Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.
  • What does it mean to love without hypocrisy?
  • What drives us to hate what is evil and cling to what is good?
  • How do these two questions define the real you?
  • What drives our devotion?
  • What is required to place others above yourself?
  • Who in your community of relationships do you need to press into and serve with humility?
  • How are you meeting the needs of others in your community? What is your motivation for doing
  • what you are doing?
  • Is God’s heart coming through your actions? How?

        
On Mission

Romans 12:14-21
     Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
     Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay” says the Lord. On the contrary: “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
  • How is it possible to bless those who persecute us and not curse them?
  • How does our witness qualify us to live mission-ally?
  • What prideful thought do you need to confess to God and turn from?
  • What does it look like to live at peace with all men? What if they are persecuting you?
  • How does forgiveness help you succeed in your work place?
  • What steps will you take to overcome evil with good?

8 Rules for Avoiding Small Group Leader Burnout

DODGE THE BURNOUT BALL AND STAY IN THE GAME.

Small group leader burnout is a devastating thing. When small group leaders exit the ministry, amazing small groups lose their shepherd and apprentices lose the opportunity to be taught by a long-time, knowledgeable, seasoned leader.

Small group leaders, if you will consider the 8 rules below, I think you’ll be able to dodge the burnout ball and stay in the game.

  1. Give away responsibilities. Anyone with too much to do feels overwhelmed and seldom does anything very well. If you will give away responsibilities to group members you will be more apt to continue to lead the group, experience leadership growth, and the work will get done better.
  2. Pray daily for group members. You burn out when you believe you’re responsible for the spiritual transformation of your group members. God is the One who grows His children. Praying for each group member by name daily is a constant reminder that God is the One who challenges and changes people.
  3. Use your apprentice. Too many group leaders have an apprentice but seldom give them responsibility. Give your apprentice the opportunity to lead often, especially when your world is at a NASCAR pace. They will grow because of it and you’ll have a chance to breathe.
  4. Don't host the meeting at your house. One of the greatest mistakes a small group leader can make is hosting the small group meeting at his/her own home every week. This means the leader must shepherd group members throughout the week, prepare for the meeting, clean house, clean up after the meeting, and in some instances cook the snack or meal. This would burn anyone out. Don’t do it.
  5. Don't try to be the group’s resident theologian. Allowing others to seek out the answers to hard-to-answer questions is good for them. Let them know where the resources are and let them do the work. They’ll grow in their knowledge of Scripture because of it and you’ll have one more thing off your plate.
  6. Take turns leading the Bible study conversation. In a healthy group, leading a conversational Bible study is not rocket science. Let them know they’ll have their opportunity to lead; choose easy to use curriculum, model good leadership for them, give them plenty of time to prepare, and let other group members lead.
  7. Plan ahead. Living in crisis mode is a sure fire way to burn out. It creates tension that will cause you to question whether or not you have the time or talent to lead a group. By planning ahead you will alleviate the inner tension that can lead you to doubt being in the role of small group leader.
  8. Ask your coach or small group pastor for help, understanding, or to step into difficult relational situations when necessary. No one ever intended for you to go it alone. When you have a difficult decision to make or a situation that is really hard, gain wisdom from your small group pastor or coach. It will relieve your tension, give you a view of the situation untainted by relationship, and may unearth a new path to follow.

by Rick Howerton